Communication In Couple

One of the best-selling books on relationships worldwide Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, by Doctor John Gray has its fundamental bases of success in understanding how different, and therefore interesting, men are from us. Understanding this difference is the basis for substantially improving communication with our partner, therefore having a much better relationship.

Contrary to what many of us think and many of them fear communication is not reduced to endless talks (or in worse cases criticism and scolding) where every minute detail of the relationship is discussed until exhaustion. The way we communicate with our partner also includes tact, gaze, our reactions to their actions, the level of support and attention that we give them and, of course, sex.

These are some of the things you can take into account to improve communication with your partner and therefore build a better relationship:

Leave the bad temper where it was provoked - It's that simple: If you had a bad day at the office, your car didn't start or your heel broke, don't take that stress with you home. Your partner is not to blame for the negative that may have happened to you during the day.

Don't assume - Assuming is one of the worst things we can do when it comes to relationships. Don't get ahead of the facts or let your imagination run wild with your own conclusions. If he is a little absent, quiet or in a bad mood, don't automatically think that it's your fault, don't attack him.

Breathe and focus on you i-If your partner is in a bad mood, give him his space and focus on your things. Unlike us men do not like to talk about everything. You can ask him what's wrong, but don't push him or get too pushy.

Avoid trying to change it - It is understandable that you do not like 100% of your partner, that does not give you the right to be criticizing him all the time, much less trying to change him. Yes, he is right when he says that “this is how you met him, that's how you fell in love,” at this point it is very important to emphasize the importance of knowing your potential partner deeply before entering into a serious relationship. Avoid being a continuous shower of negative comments.

Do not treat it like a child - Your partner did not leave his mother's wing to go hide yours. Although they are happy to feel pampered and cared for, what they are least interested in is feeling that they are in a relationship with their mother.

Try to understand it -Even if you do not agree with what he proposes or it seems stupid, this does not mean that you do not respect his point of view or deny validity to things that are important to him.

Try to stay calm when you talk to him, start by talking about yourself and the things you like about him and the many other things you would like him to change. Stay calm, think before letting out a lot and as much as possible do not go to sleep angry.

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