6 Couple Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mom

2023 Author: Leslie Forster | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-11-26 07:36

Did your mom also tell you about some of the lessons she learned as a couple throughout her life?

May 10 is Mother's Day and one way to honor her is by acknowledging everything we have learned from her, even the things we learned from her mistakes and her not-so-good experiences.

Although each mother is different and her relationships are also or were at the time, we can learn from them many things that can help us go through difficult situations in a healthier way, to evaluate our possibilities with different eyes, to accept our mistakes with less anger and better yet, to be happier.

It is inevitable, for better or for worse, that they influence our decisions, that they inspire us in many things or that they “scare us” in others, but in each case, there is always a lesson included.

See how your mom can give you great lessons about life as a couple:

1- For a broken heart: If you have your mom close and you have an open dialogue with her, ask her how she survived her first breakup, and what helped her to advance. It is true that many times we have to go through things to understand them, but when it comes to your mom there are life-changing teachings.

2- A love vs. many: Did your mom marry the first love of her life? Did you have many boyfriends? Each setting comes with a different teaching. Listen to what she has to say about life as a couple, the mistakes we make in the name of "love" and the importance of giving yourself time and space for yourself. Whether you have one or several boyfriends before going to the altar, or that you never get married, your mother can be a clear example of what you want in your life or what you don't.

3- Love of self, the beginning of everything: It is natural for a mother to wish her daughters all the best and to place special emphasis on personal appreciation and love for oneself. This may be the best advice that someone who loves you as much as your mom can give you. If you are able to love and respect yourself first, your relationships will be much healthier and your break-ups much less traumatic.

4. Soulmates: Does your mom believe in soul mates? Do you think she has found hers? Many women believe that the one exists, that man who came to this world to make them happy. Others, not so much. Ask your mom how she defines the love of her life and surely with her answer you will have a different vision than what you expect from a couple.

5- Love and acceptance: Another lesson that we can and should learn from mothers is to accept the differences and defects of the person we love, accept that we are human and that making mistakes is part of our nature. That the person we choose to be our partner comes with a past, that love is not expressed in one way and that, in addition, it does not always last for a lifetime. And that when we accept that and walk through life without fear of being alone or of failure, we already have the "half of the game" won.

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6- That nothing is set in stone: Well, your mother will have already told you, perhaps not with those same words, but with the same meaning, and that the possibilities are many and the paths are many, that situations change and that there is nothing “guaranteed”. That you decide many times where you are going, and thus mark the courses. And other times your plans don't work because life has something different planned for you. So it is with the love of couples: nothing is set in stone and even those who swear to you eternal love may leave tomorrow or you may ask yourself to leave.

What are the best couple lessons your mom has given you?