The Main Reason Why A Couple Fails

2023 Author: Leslie Forster | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-11-26 07:36

It is not infidelity. They are not financial problems. It is not routine. The number one cause of a couple's breakup, which causes a marriage to end in divorce, is nothing more and nothing less than "bad communication."

That is, if you want to save your relationship or your marriage, what you should start to improve from now is the way to communicate. For that, you may need professional help, such as couples therapy, which is always an important resource to avoid getting a divorce.

Experts say that between 25 to 50 percent of divorces can be avoided if the couple does therapy and, through it, improves communication and the way of dealing with the things that bother each of those involved.

Communication problems are so common that it seems that no one is saved, but in reality it is that communicating well requires certain steps that many prefer to skip. Communicating well requires commitment, honesty, and time to listen, among other things.

For example, how many times do we not pay attention to what the other tells us and start a conversation or discussion based on something that we “take for granted” and that we “take for granted by mistake”? When one of the two in the couple has a wrong assumption, then the communication takes paths with many ups and downs and thus the fights, arguments, anger and problems begin.

In order for both of you to understand what's going on, you both need to be honest, accurate, and prepared to open up to the other honestly about what you think and feel (and we know this is not so easy or simple to do).

One of the things that happens most often is that one of the two in the couple always wants to be right, but when there is good communication, who is right is the least of it.

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Another frequent problem is that we do not know how to listen to the other: listening means paying absolute attention to what the other says and not taking everything personally. Honest conversation can really make a difference.

There are no perfect couples, but those who do not know how to communicate, or do a poor job of listening, are much more likely to fail than those who, from the beginning, make it a priority to communicate well and try to do it all the time. And nothing is lost by trying!